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INTRODUCTION

Anger is an emotion related to one psychological interpretation OF having being offended, wronged or denied a tendency to undo. It is a strong feeling of displeasure.

Why Bother Me With Overcoming Anger

Negative emotions like anger kick us into survival mode as if saying to our body “we are in danger” there is a physiological change in our body to prepare us for fight/flight. these physical responses disrupt the natural flow of energy in our body-affecting our heart immune system digestion and normal production. A negative emotion is therefore poisonous to the body and interferes with its harmonious functioning and balance.

What does God say about anger?

-God does not want us to respond emotionally to others actions instead we should respond with wisdom and a gentle spirit.

-Here are some passages where God talked about anger and what will happen to them.

Psalms 37:8, Prov 12:16 – 18, Prov 14: 16 – 17, 29, Prov 15: 1, 18, Prov 16:32, Prov 17:27, Prov 20: 3, 22, Prov 25: 28, Prov 29:8, 11, 22, Matt 5:21 – 24, Romans 12:21, 1 Cor 13:4 – 5, Gal 5: 19 – 20, Eph 4:26 – 27, 29 – 32.

FORMS OF ANGER

These forms are as recognized by psychologists

1.       Hasty and sudden anger by joseph butler: is connected to the impulse for self-preservation. It is shared between humans and non-human, animals and occurs when trapped or tormented e.g. when one is kidnapped, he becomes angry.

2.       Settled and deliberated anger: is a reaction to perceive deliberate harm or unfair treatment by others e.g. when one crack joke with you and in the cause insults your parents to know what you will do.

3.       Dispositional: it is related more to character traits than to instincts or cognitions, irritability

TYPES OF ANGER

a.       Passive anger

a.       Dispassion: such as giving the cold shoulder or phony smile, looking unconcerned while others sort things out, damping feelings with substance abuse, over reacting, over sleeping, not responding to another’s anger

b.      Evasiveness: turning your back in a crisis, avoiding conflicts, not arguing back, becoming phobic.

c.       Ineffectualness: such as setting yourself and others up for failure, choosing unreliable people to depend on, being accident prone, under achieving sexual impotence, expressing frustration at insignificant things but ignoring serious ones

d.      Obsessive behaviour

e.      Psychological manipulation: emotional blackmail, provoking people and then patronizing them.

f.        Secretive behaviour: giving silent treatment, avoiding eye contact, putting people down, gossiping

b.      Aggressive anger

a.       Bullying: threatening people directly

b.      Destructiveness: such as destroying objects, destroying a relationship, reckless driving

c.       Hurtfulness: such as physical violence, verbal abuse, biased or vulgar jokes, breaking a confidence

d.      Manic behaviour: expecting people to catch up with you when their strengths can’t reach

CAUSES OF ANGER

-People get angry when they or their loved ones have been offended when they are certain/ not certain that someone else is responsible for it e.g. when ones car or something precious to you is damaged.

-The incentive of anger could be a physical disorder, such as illness or neuropathy that cause hypersensitiveness.

-It could be a psychological defect that is arisen from mental stress, excessive selfishness, or feeling of insult or inferiority.

-It could be ethical, such as habituation of quarrelsomeness and quick anxiety

PRON OF ANGER

Don’t burst with your hot temper, it has no advantage

When Negative Feelings Arise We Have Two Chances

(a)    To follow the habitual pattern we have learned since we were young to react and allow negativity to consume us

(b)   To interrupt the pattern we have been conditioned to follow, and in doing so build new neural pathways that allows for alternative possibilities

CRONS OF ANGER

1.       One may lose his objectivity empathy prudence or thoughtfulness and may cause harm to others

2.       It can cause decrease in production and increase in work stress

3.       One will lose his friends and opportunities

4.       Anger causes gross damages that harm individuals and communities, physically and mentally, materially and morally

5.       A single state of anger often injured the emotions, charged the spirits with hatred, and split the handles of mutual amicability

6.       It often throw people in jails, exposed them to perditions, aroused wars, and shed blood of thousands of innocent people.

7.      the calamities of anger reflect on the angry; therefore, you see him tear his dress, slap his head, and, in some cases, practice insane deeds, such as reviling at beasts and beating on the solid things.

MEDICAL HAZARDS ASSOCIATED WITH ANGER

The constant flood of stress chemicals and associated metabolic changes that accompany recurrent unmanaged anger eventually cause harm to many different systems of the body. Some of the short and long term health problems that have been linked to unmanaged anger include: head ache, digestion problems such as abdominal pain, increased anxiety, depression high blood pressure, heart attack, stroke, increased levels of adrenaline and non-adrenaline, increased levels of heart rate.

WAYS TO OVERCOMING ANGER

(i)                  Change your thoughts how you see and judge an issue from within your heart will utterly determine your reaction

(ii)                Change your language  don’t use abusive words when you are angry and don’t take decision when angry

(iii)               Change your physical position: people who stay in an angry atmosphere are most likely to do stupid things

(iv)              Change of sight and position: this is tagged one of the easiest ways of overcoming anger ie remove your eyes from the current event or situation

(v)                Circle of influence: when you are feeling down it does not help you if you keep on complaining all around about the same thing that makes you angry

(vi)              Gratitude exercise: when you are angry you can pick up a pen, a note try to write down your achievements and return glory to God.it takes you from physical or spiritual state of happiness

(vii)             Meditation exercise: meditation is training for the mind, to calm the noise in our mental space to lower our thought for the mind, to calm the inner wisdom and mostly it helps us to recognize and remain anchored in our divine state. Philippians 4:8

(viii)           Laugh at the situation: we cant be laughing and angry at the same time. u be witch

(ix)              Recognize and accept anger as part of life and Forgive the person instantly because it may stop you from going to heaven eph 4 vs 31-32

(x)                Do something physically like sports or running or playing music or pinging(facebooking,blackberry,2going,etc)  to control your anger, but never make alcohol  your companion when you are angry. prov 31 vs 4-5

(xi)              Die to self and live by Christ Gal 2:20,romans 8:8

(xii)             Replace anger with acts of kindness Eph 4:31

(xiii)           Try and pinpoint the exact reason why you feel angry and consider coming up with strategies on how to remedy the situation

(xiv)           If you feel out of control walk away from the situation temporarily, until you cool down

(xv)            Face the real issues gal 5: 13 – 26

(xvi)           Break the stronghold of anger, 2^nd Cor 10:3 – 7

In conclusion According to Gal 2:20 try and die to self and live for Christ. For with Christ all things are possible.

Madubuike, Kingsley C.S

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